Thursday, 03 July 2008
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Pew Warmer
Well it seems that lately I have become what I like to call a "Pew Warmer" I go to church, put on a smile, sit through the sermon and then leave. I can't figure out why it is that I have so many people surrounding me and yet I can't speak up and say "I NEED HELP!!"Take this last Sunday for example, three people came up to me to ask how things are going.This is how it played out: (insert smile here)<--"Things are great, nothing too much.... blah blah..." funny joke and on to the next subject. WHATS WRONG WITH ME!!
Why can't I open up and let people in to see that at this moment I am hollow. I love God, but I don't house him in my heart. I ask him for lots of things, but I don't give him the praise and worship he deserves. I feel that I've let my love and belief in him fade, and I'm scared to let others know this; as if I'm afraid to let others see I have failed.
I know the obvious on how to change this... its just allowing myself to let others in... (Another blog for another day!)
What have you done once you reached this point??
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Comments (5)
Hmm...definitely been in that situation before. It reminds me of the Casting Crowns song, Plastic People. No one wants to be real because everyone else looks so perfect. Let me tell you, you're probably not the only one struggling. It happens to everyone of us.
My suggestion, figure out who you want to talk to and then invite them over to hang out, cook dinner for them, go out together somewhere. Then allow the conversation to turn to spiritual things, or maneuver it that direction if the need arises. Then be honest. One of the easiest intro's I use is asking others how they're doing in their walk with God. Often after they talk they'll turn the question around and ask you.
Usually if I'm really nervous about it I go for a drive and park somewhere and just call them on the phone. Sometimes it's easier for me if it's not face to face.
I struggle with being with vulnerable with people as well. The same people ask me how I am doing and I always say "Okay..." and leave it at that. It shouldn't be this way...in fact, I can almost guarantee that when I turn the question around and ask how they are doing they'll say they're fine, too, no matter if they are or not. I don't have much advice for you, but sometimes it helps me when I realize I am not the only one who feels this way, and maybe if I take a chance and be a little vulnerable with them they will be with me, too, and in that way we can carry each other's burdens instead of walking alone.
I think your site is pretty. Welcome to Revelife.
Let me share this line that my pastor said after he totally messed up in the middle of a Christmas eve service a couple of years ago:
"It's better to be real than to pretend that you have it all together."
That unscripted, ad-libbed moment gave me the permission I needed to confess that I was NOT alright, that I was at that moment spiritually empty, and that I needed help. It was the beginning of a process of surrendering my emptiness to the One who could fill me up.
@heyyoulady - I love that quote because it is so true! :0)